Thursday, February 4, 2016

My Kid Has This Big Swim Meet Today

Two days ago she came home from swim practice and was feeling exceptionally nervous. Her coach had talked to the team as a whole, stating the times he has for the girls tonight at the sectional swim. (It's kind of like the first round of playoffs for swimmers.) So, like I said, she was nervous. Telling my kid what is expected based on her ability and past performance makes her really nervous and under pressure. I don't do much to shield her from this because let's face it, the world works this way much of the time. Anyway, back to today...

Well yesterday actually. I was thinking yesterday about how nervous she was two days ago. So, I decided to try and encourage her today. The problem is, she had morning swim practice, which the husband drives her to, and I intended to sleep in this morning. Thus, I wouldn't be able to talk to her unless I call her cell phone during class. The administration at her school tends to frown on this sort of thing.

I wrote a series of letters, one for each class, and sealed them in envelopes, with instructions on which envelope to open in which class. So I give you, my letters to my kid.  I hope they make you laugh and inspire you to try to encourage your own kid.



Good morning, Daughter,

I know that you’re maybe a little nervous about tonight’s swim meet. That’s ok. A little nervousness gives us a little adrenaline, and that can help us do things we ordinarily couldn’t.

Right now, I want you to just think about being relaxed, maybe sitting alongside a stream in a nice woods, breathing fresh crisp air, letting the oxygen go to all your muscles and relaxing them…

WAKE UP!  I know, it’s first period, and I probably shouldn’t have told you to relax.

Now tell your teacher what’s so funny. She will laugh, too.

Try to relax this morning, think about your blood flowing to all your muscles, massaging them with good oxygen and food, taking away all the crappy junk, and breathing it out into the atmosphere.

I hope you brushed your teeth.

I love you,
Mommy
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Hello, it’s me…

And no, I’m not going to sing. Ick. Who wants to hear that?

I just wanted to remind you how hard you work and how awesome and amazing you are, just as you are.

That is all.

We now return you to your regularly scheduled class already in progress.

Xoxo
Mommy

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Fourscore and seven years ago,

I’m sad to have to admit that’s all I really know. There are some forefathers in there, and “of the people, by the people, and for the people, shall not perish from this earth” is the ending, which in my opinion is the best part.

Anyway…

Did you eat a little protein before history class?  If not, maybe he’ll let you sneak a few almonds. You know, so your muscles can begin to prepare.

As for your brain, occupy it with history right now. Sink in deep, girl, because President Roosevelt was the SHIT. Ok don’t tell your teacher that. Not out loud, not in front of the whole class. Tell him privately later. If you want.

You’re going to do great tonight. I promise you. How can I promise this? You’re my kid, and I know you, sometimes better than you know yourself. It’s ok you don’t have to admit that to me.

Love you,
Mommy

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If it’s appropriate, give your physics teacher a hug from me. If it’s not, give him a virtual hug. Although I don’t think he’d mind a real one. I think he misses some people.

Can you think of a physics problem calculating the rotational momentum of your arm in the water as you swim fly?

Me neither. But I bet your physics teacher can if he tries hard enough.

In the meantime, make sure you eat some good complex carbs, not a crapton of sugar right now. Maybe some granola, or something starchy but not white starchy, like whole wheat bread. Or some peanut butter.

Envision yourself gliding, slicing, moving through the water as effortlessly as a great white shark. You ARE the shark, stalking your prey, which is that stuckup girl from that school we don't like in the lane next to you.

BITE HER!!! EAT HER FOR LUNCH!

Love,
Mommy

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Hello little one. Are you reading this in study hall or at lunch? If it’s lunch, tell your lunch table I say hi, and ask your best friend when she’s going to come over again. I miss her. If it’s not… oh it doesn’t matter.

I hope you’re having a good day at school.  You do a lot with your time, you know? Don’t think you don’t. You study hard, learn a lot, keep up decent grades, and work out 8 times or more a week. That’s a lot. So be proud. Heck, you even got your room looking AMAZING and we both know that was no small feat.

You. Are. WONDERWOMAN. Except don’t wear the outfit, it’s so 70s.

Tonight is going to be so B.A. And I don’t mean Bachelor of Arts, either.

Xoxo
Mommy

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I hope you’re not reading this during a math lesson. Math is hard. Put it away until your teacher is done. Well, tell him I say hello and THEN put it away.

Ok. What are you working on in math? I liked math, and was good at it until they added three variables to calculus. I’d be a genius if the world was 2-dimensional.

I’m not going to talk about the thing that’s probably making you a little nervous.  Just remember what you told me Tuesday night.

You can only control you. You can’t control what anybody else does. You can only put out what you have in y--

STOP PUTTING THAT JUNK FOOD IN YOUR MOUTH WHAT IS WRONG WITH YOU HAVEN’T YOU LEARNED A SINGLE THING FROM ME

Sorry…. Where was I? Oh yeah. You can only put out what you’ve put in, and that is a LOT. You’ve worked so hard. You’ve prepared. You’ve controlled what you can control.

Now give the rest to God.

Is it a sin for me to pray the other swimmers have a crappy meet and you win? Ok yeah you’re probably right.  But still….

Love,
Mommy

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It’s the best class of the day – MEDIA ART, a.k.a. photography. The art teachers can say whatever they want, you and I both know that photography is where it’s AT.  (Artists apparently don’t know proper grammar, either.)

Enjoy your time with your friends. Get your stuff done but don’t be antisocial. Acknowledge that maybe you’re nervous but don’t let it control you. It’s kind of like a zit. Ok, you’re there, I see that you’re there, and other people might, too, but there’s a whole lot more to me than this one zit being nervous.

Like how smart you are. And how independent you are. And how strong you are. And how hard you work. And how every time you get on that starting block, you make me so, so, so damn proud.

You really are my hero, Daughter.

Damn I need a tissue.

Love,
Mommy

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